Idiom
Break the ice
By EasySay. Published . Updated .
Break the ice means to do or say something that eases tension when people meet.
A short story, a warm hello or a simple question can break the ice at the start of a meeting. Once the ice is broken, people relax and talk more freely. You can use it at work, at parties and in class.
Written for EasySay, in our own words.
In short
- AvoidSay “break the ice”, not “break an ice”.
- Or sayEase the tension
- AUCambridge and Longman label it informal.
Break the ice: what it is, and what it is not
- IS
- Easing tension when people meet, so they relax and talk.
- IS
- Common in British and American books, 2010 to 2019.
- IS NOT
- About cold weather: it is about people relaxing when they meet.
Meaning: To ease tension when people meet, so they relax and talk.
How do people say it?
- In conversation:
I told a short story about my trip to break the ice with the new neighbours.
- At work:
She opened the meeting with a quick quiz to break the ice.
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What should I know?
The words say
To crack the ice on a frozen lake so a ship can pass.
It really means
To do something small that helps people relax and start talking. It can also mean to make the first start on something hard, such as a big job.
What do dictionaries say?
- In Australia
- Cambridge and Longman label it informal. The dictionaries we checked give it no Australian label, so it is general English, not only from Australia.
- In the UK
- Google Books (2010 to 2019): about 0.21 times per million words in British books, about the same as in American books.
- In the US
- Google Books (2010 to 2019): about 0.20 times per million words in American books, about the same as in British books.
What mistakes should I avoid?
- It is about people relaxing, not about real ice. Do not use it when you mean cold weather.
- Say “break the ice”, not “break an ice”. The three words stay the same.
- A rude remark does not break the ice. It makes the tension worse, so keep the opener kind.
The picture is an icebreaker ship, the strong boat that cracks a path through frozen water so other ships can follow. A cold room of strangers feels a little like that frozen water: people stay still, stay quiet and wait.
The person who breaks the ice makes the first crack. After that the talking flows, just as ships follow the open channel. The phrase keeps the cold picture on purpose, because tension does feel cold.
Good icebreakers share two traits: they are small and they are safe.
Small means short, a question or a story of a few seconds, because a long speech in a cold room only freezes it further.
Safe means nothing about politics, looks or money, and nothing that puts one person on the spot.
“Where did you grow up?” works in most rooms. “What did you think of the match?” works wherever people follow sport. Name badges, tea and a smile do the rest.
Learners sometimes mix this phrase with “the elephant in the room”, and the pair is worth holding together. An elephant in the room is the big subject that stays unnamed; breaking the ice is the small move that gets people talking at all.
You break the ice first, with something light, and only later, when the room is warm, do you name the elephant. One opens the door, the other walks through it. Practise them as a pair and neither will slip away.
What else can I say?
- Ease the tension Plain and safe in any country.
- Get things started For the first minute of a meeting.
- An icebreaker The game or question itself.
More idioms
- Elephant in the room A big, obvious problem that people know about but do not want to talk about.
- Speak of the devil Said with a smile when someone arrives as you talk about them.
More examples
- In a text:
Nervous about dinner tonight. Any tips to break the ice with his parents?
Questions people ask
What is an icebreaker?
An icebreaker is the game, question or story that starts the talking. “Say your name and one hobby” is a classic icebreaker for a class.
Can I break the ice in writing?
Yes. A warm first line in an email, such as “I hope the move went well”, breaks the ice before the real subject.
Is it only for meetings?
No. It works at parties, in class and on a first date: places where strangers need a small safe start.
Sources and dates
- EasySay's own writing for the idioms, EasySay. Licence: original writing for EasySay. Checked .
- Google Books Ngram Viewer: counts per million words, 2010 to 2019, Google. Licence: our own words, from the facts in the source. Checked . Counts read from the Google Books Ngram Viewer (British and American English corpora, 2010 to 2019). Google publishes the Ngram data under CC BY 3.0 (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/).
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